“Pornography is the ‘explicit representation of sexual activity in print or on film to stimulate erotic rather than aesthetic or emotional feelings.’ The following advice and help refers only to heterosexual pornography – that is men looking at women and, more rarely, women looking at men.
It is helpful to remember that pornography:
- shows women as mere physical objects and focuses on their breasts and sex organs;
- does not even try to show other ways in which a woman can be attractive, e.g. character, intelligence, humor;
- shows sex as the only important thing in a relationship between a man and a woman;
- cannot substitute for long-term love and commitment. It produces short-lived thrills and does nothing to develop a loving sexual relationship.
“It is possible for sexually explicit material not to be pornographic. For instance, medical textbooks and sex manuals are designed for education. Pornography differs because its only purpose is titillation and fantasy.”
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How can I help?
If you know people who are addicted to pornography, who have tried and failed to overcome this obstacle in their lives, help them understand that they have an addiction and that they must seek help from the right sources to defeat it.
There are 12-step programs that are specifically designed to battle pornography addictions. It can be difficult to start the process, but if you and your loved ones go to Recovery.org, you will be able to find help in your area. A portion of these programs are for family members or friends who have dealt with the negative effects of a loved one’s addiction to pornography; this can help them find clarity and peace, as well.
To help our cause in other ways, make a donation. We take donations to move our cause along so that the pornography pandemic cannot continue to be ignored. Such moves in our cause include passing bills. We also provide resources, such as the book He Restoreth My Soul by Donald L. Hilton, that can be purchased through the link below.
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Are there any other groups against pornography?
Yes, there are many other groups that are fighting for the same cause that Citizens for Decency is. Fight the New Drug and Porn Harms are just two other organizations that are causing quite a stir in the anti-pornography battle. Like Citizens for Decency, they have websites, blogs, and social media sites that can be followed; they also take donations.
How is pornography harmful?
A new study has found that viewing pornography is harmful to the viewer and society. In a meta-analysis (a statistical integration of all existing scientific data), researchers have found that using pornographic materials leads to several behavioral, psychological, and social problems.
“One of the most common psychological problems is a deviant attitude towards intimate relationships such as perceptions of sexual dominance, submissiveness, sex role stereotyping or viewing persons as sexual objects. Behavioral problems include fetishes and excessive or ritualistic masturbation. Sexual aggressiveness, sexually hostile and violent behaviours are social problems as well as individual problems that are linked to pornography.”
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What are the consequences of viewing pornography?
Perhaps the most critical consequence of internet pornography is addiction. We recognize that pornography is a universal problem and that nearly every person knows someone who is struggling or has struggled with a pornography addiction. Research indicates that nobody has escaped this pandemic unscathed. Families become broken and healthy relationships falter because of pornography use.
The brain becomes addicted to pornography. When pornography is viewed, chemicals such as dopamine are released in the brain. Dopamine is considered a drug and can be produced outside of the body in a lab. So, in a very real sense, pornography addiction is as intense, if not more intense, than an addiction to cocaine or heroin.
Dr. Victor B. Cline, who specializes in family counseling and sexual addictions says, “In my clinical experience, the major consequence of being addicted to pornography is the disturbance of the fragile bonds of intimate family and marital relationships.” This is further discussed in the FAQ “How does pornography affect relationships?”
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Is there really a difference between healthy sexualty and unhealthy sexuality?
Yes, healthy sexuality usually occurs between two people who love and care for each other, while unhealthy sexuality includes masturbating, pornography use, aggressive sexual behavior, and rape. Pornography use can result in an unrealistic expectation of how men and women act during intimacy and can lead to lowered self-esteems and decreased libidos in both the pornography user and his/her partner. Studies have shown that when a person becomes addicted to pornography, “regular” sex becomes boring, and the user seeks to satisfy his/her sexual need by accessing more and harder pornography.
How does pornography affect relationships?
Though an addiction only develops in one person, its impact spreads to many more: wives, husbands, children, parents, other family members, and friends. The relationship affected the most is the relationship between husband and wife in marriage.
Vivian Chan, a family counselor, wrote an article that gives five ways pornography affects marital relationships:
- Marital distress, separation, and divorce: Mild pornography use “may seem to be culturally acceptable or tolerable, but it has negative impact on marital relationships despite the belief of the culture.”
- Decreased sexual satisfaction: “There is less satisfaction with their intimate partner specifically with their partner’s affection, physical appearance, sexual curiosity, and sexual performance.”
- Decreased sexual intimacy: When pornography enters an intimate relationship, more than 50% of people with addictions lose sexual interest with their spouse because pornography alters their perceptions of sex.
- Infidelity: Research and studies have shown that pornography use correlates with unfaithfulness to one’s spouse and participation in prostitution.
- Other issues such as overspending, debt, and decreased job security: The pornography industry in the United States earns $13.3 billion dollars annually. Online sexual activity tends to lead to overspending and debt from the purchase of pornography.
Click here for further details of pornography’s effects on relationships in Chan’s article, “The Impact of Pornography on Marital Relationships.”