Imagine the humiliation of an ex-partner taking explicit photos of you that were meant only for him and posting them on a site where everyone can see them. This can be detrimental to the victims, who feel very keenly how degrading it is to have their pictures floating around the Internet without their consent. Most of the victims are women. Often their names, numbers, and/or addresses are posted with the pictures. To make matters worse, these revenge...
In today’s world of social media and increasingly new technology, people are becoming lonely. We’ve begun a trend of disconnecting even while connecting with the world through social media. Face to face interaction is becoming less important, and the next trending hashtag, the constant need to update Facebook posts, and the urge to photograph everything in sight to post on Instagram takes priority. We live in crowds, but don’t look up from our phones...
The world would have us believe that the romance we see in movies, television, and books are the kinds of romances that happen in real life. These ideal relationships show that romance can overcome everything and that love will solve everyone’s problem, big or small. However, these expectations are going to fail because we live in the real world and people make mistakes. When we are brought back to reality we have a sense of loss because everything is...
Proper behavior and use of digital technology is critical for teens and young adults to master as they become aware of the good and especially the bad effects of that technology, including pornography. It is exciting to see that teens have become so adaptable to the ever changing universe of technology. Technology is constantly changing and evolving to new and better devices and ideas. With these changes comes a learning curve, including what is...
It’s unimaginably tough to discover that a spouse or child has a pornography addiction. While the initial reaction may be one of betrayal, confusion, and disgust, we have to remember that we’re all human and make mistakes, and that the one you love will need your guidance and support now more than ever. It’s important to note that while you can’t change people (especially with an addiction as strong as pornography), you can certainly make a difference in...
LDS Living Magazine recently published an article by Jenny Spencer entitled “What (and What Not) to Say to Someone Struggling With Pornography.” This article gives great points on how to talk to people who are struggling with pornography without having them become defensive and recede further from the people they love. The statements that Jenny Spencer has for talking to those who struggle are great examples. Check out this article at LDS Living Blog or...
Citizens for Decency was created at the request of a single mother whose family has been deeply affected by pornography. Her husband was introduced to pornography as a young child and then struggled with a pornography addiction for many years. His love for his family and pain at causing them emotional distress was not enough to help him overcome his deep addiction. Pornography altered his gentle mind, causing him to have violent thoughts towards those he loved.
To physically protect his family from himself, he eventually took his own life. His wife and mother of their eight children, asked Craig Cobia (now President/Chairman Citizens for Decency) if there was anything he could do to help prevent others from experiencing similar tragedies. Craig and his colleagues made contact with other decency organizations in the United States. They soon realized that Idaho lacked a strong decency organization. There was no one to make citizens of Idaho aware of the problem, and to advocate for policy changes that would protect its people from pornography.
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Understanding Our Enemy
Here are a few memorable quotes from this video:
“Pornography normalizes sexual harm.” Patrick Truman
“We know from research that pornography is correlated with domestic violence and battery…that pornography is not just looking at pictures online and the types of pictures that are viewed are drastically different than that of past years.” Jill Manning, Ph.D. Licensed marriage & Family Therapist
Pornography is related to “job loss and financial strain…decreased values in businesses and homes with a sexual business nearby…and increased separation and divorce.”
Sexting in high schools are inappropriate images that are being taken and then forwarding those images via cell phones.
Hope & Healing
There is more hope today than there has been in the past to help those who are affected or addicted to pornography. There are more clinics and psychologists that are getting fully trained and have more knowledge on how to treat those who are affected in any way by pornography.
“But when Pinocchio made a promise to be true, brave, and selfless, he became accountable to people to be those things. That’s when he started turning things around and realized the importance of the relationship’s in his life and the importance of becoming a real and whole boy” (Jill Manning).
Marion McBride shares her story as a recovering addict and the hope that came back into her life because of the 12 Step Program.
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